Marriage Counseling Does It Work?

Exchange points for real cash prizes at Moco Reward

2010-09-10T07:25:00.001-07:00

Your New Account

2010-01-10T00:56:00.000-08:00

Greetings,

Today we launched an all-new version of Feed My Inbox. Since you have an account, we wanted to pass along some important information and tell you about all the cool new features that are now available.

You have a new password

Moving to an all-new system behind-the-scenes means we had to reset all account passwords to keep your personal information 100% secure.

Here is your new temporary account login:

Login Here - https://www.feedmyinbox.com/members/login/
Email Address - frivvy89.marriagecounseling@blogger.com
Password - wFB7Cf0c

Upon logging in for the first time, you will be asked to change your password to something unique that only you know.

Your Plan

You are currently subscribed to five or fewer feeds.

Your account will continue to be free and will function as usual. If you would be interested in some of the advanced new features below or would like to subscribe to more than five feeds, you can enjoy a 30-day free trial of any paid account by upgrading.

New Paid Account Features

Real-time updates - You have the choice of getting emails as they happen, or continue receiving updates no more than once per day.

HTML/text format - Choose whether you would like to receive updates in HTML (fancy) or plain text format for each feed.

Email summary options - Instead of getting the full update, you can choose to receive a brief summary of each or titles only and a link to read more.

Customize the send time - Choose what time you would like emails to be sent to you each day.


	Read about all of the new features along with detailed pricing options on the new website: http://www.feedmyinbox.com/pricing/.

We thank you for being a customer and sincerely hope that Feed My Inbox continues to be a useful service for you!

QUESTIONS OR FEEDBACK?

If you have any, simply reply to this email for help.

Your friends at, FeedMyInbox.com help@FeedMyInbox.com

9/7 YouTube Videos matching query: marriage counselling

2009-09-06T23:22:00.002-07:00

Please add updates@feedmyinbox.com to your address book to make sure you receive these messages in the future.

YouTube Videos matching query: marriage counselling

Marriage Counseling : How to Tell if Your Wife is Cheating
September 5, 2009 at 12:17 pm

	Marriage Counseling : How to Tell if Your Wife is Cheating Discover if your wife is cheating on you by trusting your intuition and examining any major changes in the behavioral patterns. Find out if your wife is cheating withtips from the author of a book on marriage in this free video on marriage counseling. Expert: Joe Cuenco Contact: www.married4ever.com Bio: Joe Cuenco is the author of "Married For 5000 Years,'"a research book that analyzes marriage presenting sociological, cultural and environmental factors. Filmmaker: Christopher Rokosz...	From: expertvillage Views: 1657 4 ratings
	Time: 02:34	More in Howto & Style

This email was sent to frivvy89.marriagecounseling@blogger.com. Manage Your Account
Don't want to receive this feed any longer? Unsubscribe here.

9/7 Yahoo! Answers: Search for

2009-09-06T23:22:00.001-07:00

Please add updates@feedmyinbox.com to your address book to make sure you receive these messages in the future.

Yahoo! Answers: Search for

Open Question: I am married to Batman. Should I go to marriage counseling?
September 6, 2009 at 11:58 pm

Open Question: Relationship Dilemma: Arranged Marriage vs. Marrying someone I know?
September 6, 2009 at 10:34 pm

I come from a culture where arranged marriages are quite common. Now the problem is that I have to choose between the following two options. Option A) I have been friends with a girl for the past 3 years and in the meantime we also had the understanding of getting married.The relationship went thru ups and downs like she being obsessed with her career and and letting her family interfere in our relationship. I had to do a lot of counseling. As a result of my counseling she was eventually able to see my point but in the process I feel as that she has used up all of my patience; and she will go back to her ways the moment she feels comfortable. Moreover, we never met in person but only on video chat. On chat she looked ok, but when we met in person she looked much older and with skin problems. It was as if I am meeting a different person. Having said that, I do enjoy her company and we do talk on the same wavelength but because of the above three issues I am reluctant to enter into this relationship. Option B) I can get into an arranged relationship. The downside that we might not click and then I would just be stuck with a person that I do not enjoy being with. In my culture, in such arranged relationships one gets only a 40 min chat with the girl before marriage. I have to get married in a years time.

Open Question: Can persons who had an affair be friends.,?
September 6, 2009 at 6:00 pm

My wife had an affair with a core worker. The closest she ever got to an apology is, " I never intended to hurt you." She was really nasty in the beginning and was talking about a divorce, stating that our son would adjust, now she says she is willing to try to repair our marriage. She however states that the person she had the affair with will always remain a close friend, she still works with the guy and allows him to drive her car and company vehicles to bring her to different professional functions claiming that she would only do this when other drivers are not available. They remain in touch via blackberry during the day and claims they have limited their calls. However I have found occasions in which he messages her 11:00 at night when we are asleep and early in the morning. They share the same motor club, books,music, liming spots, friends which she see's no need to give up. My wife has no interest in cars, racing, I have to beg her to service the car. She claims to join the all male motor club to do something different and help out as the first female.On three occasions I met the guy at work and one time she gave him a ride, in which he refused to even make a greeting or acknowledge my presents until I confronted him. I have confronted her on this and she defends him saying he was busy on his phone. A passed request on my part giving her a carm ultimatum to leave or set agreed parameters, resulted in her crying and screaming that am black mailing her and I cannot place her under duress. She makes very little effort to increase the time we share together and claims that the guy is advising her on things we should do to enhance/ rebuild our relationship, which she does not carry out based on her stubbornness. She says that he is in our corner. She gets really angry when rumors reach her parents and friends but will not change her relationship as mentioned with the guy whose boss she happens to be. Their work allows for a certain amount of interaction. However I believe she could put distance between them if she wanted too. I wonder if the affair is really over since it is her claim. I have bought several books on repairing and rebuilding a marriage which she will not read and she absolutely refuses to go to counselling or allow mutual family and friends to talk to us. The only person she talks to is him. We have been married for 7 years, the guy is 25 years old, five years younger than her and still lives with his mother. Tell me what you think, any suggestion as to what I should do.

Open Question: Should I break up with him or break off the engagement? :(?
September 6, 2009 at 4:56 pm

My fiance of 1 year (and boyfriend for one year before that, friend for 1 year before that) (plus I knew him from high school for a total of knowing him for 5 years) was acting distant a little over a month ago. He was less affectionate towards me, and when I'd ask him what was wrong he told me nothing. I finally got him to tell me in an email (since he says he is horrible at expressing himself in words) that he does not think we should be considering marriage. He says that he saw me hanging out with other friends (ones that I have not seen in 2 years btw) and that it was the most he's seen me laugh in a long time, and that we don't have that much fun together anymore and maybe I'd be happier with someone else (which is bs--I just hadn't seen them in a while). I am at a loss for words. He feels that our differences should make us rethink getting married since it could cause us problems later down the road. One of these problems is that he now has suddenly changed his mind about where we will live. I want to live near my family (well not down the street, but in the same state) and now all of a sudden he does not want to live here anymore and when I compromise and say I possibly will move, he does not compromise at all. The most drastic issue is that does not want me raising our kids as Christian, or at least taking them to church. Earlier on in the engagement he said I could do whatever I wanted though. Also, he knew I was religious several years ago before we even started dating!! Three times over the past several months I have brought up this issue about us being of different denominations, and he said that it didn't matter and our love could get us through it. Now all of a sudden, he has cold feet and says it could be a problem! Ironically over the past couple months, I have started to believe that it could work if we made it, and became really happy thinking about how we would start planning our wedding in less than a year (we are getting married in 2 years after graduating college). This past month though has been very frustrating because I cannot get him to talk to me about the situation! Whenever I try, he just shuts up and does not say anything, I'm not even exaggerating! Perhaps I am just being too pushy about it, but I hate being in this land of limbo and not knowing whether he is really going to be my husband or not. Then last week, he finally opened up and talked about it for a few hours, and said that we were happier when we were 'just friends', which my other friend says is b.s. He said maybe we could try being friends for a few days and see how it goes. After day one, I gave up (because it was too emotionally painful) and told him I wanted to go on a break for a week. However, during this break, he still would contact me over the internet, and when he'd see me at school, he wouldn't hesitate to talk to me. It is really frustrating. I am his best friend, as he is mine. He told me that he doesn't want to lose me as his friend because I am all he has. But he is pushing me away so much, that it is so hard to be friends, even! I wanted to give him time over this past week to think things over, but he still hasn't come to a conclusion (the week will be over tomorrow). He says he still loves me. When I said "yeah, but you aren't IN love with me," he said " no" and that he is in love with me. He is a great guy, and I know that he is just very confused right now, and has no one to talk to regarding these emotions he has. Yesterday, I was thinking that I should break up with him for good. Someone else I talked to thinks that it will maybe if I do it will make breaking up a reality for him, and he could come back to me if he realizes the implications of what he is doing. Either that or I am considering just breaking off the engagement only. I am so unsure of what to do! I love him so much. He is my first love, and really want to try and work through our problems!! I have thought of counseling, but being a college student, I don't really have money to pay for that...unless anyone knows of a church or something that does free premarital counseling.. I am at a huge fork in the road! HELP! PLEASE! thank you! The 'kids' I am referring to are our potential future children. We do not have any children yet, to clarify. I will be 21 in a few months, and he is already 21. I am thinking that it is that he is just past the "honeymoon" period. I am thinking this because he was so overly romantic with me and everything for the first year of our being together. Maybe we just moved too fast and got engaged too soon into the relationship (7 months into dating, something that surprised me). My fiance is not atheist. He is Christian, as well. He actually was attending church with me for a while...I just wish I could get him to tell me what he is feeling! It is so hard to get his feelings out of him. I know deep down that the best thing to do is to break up, although I keep wondering something. If you all think that he has just made up his mind and doesn't want to marry me (although he says he still WANTS to, he just doesn't know if we should be considering it), why on earth doesn't he just break up with me first instead of sitting stagnantly like this for a month? P.S. Thank you to all who have answered so far! :D

Open Question: MARRIAGE HELP! He is always mad at me!?
September 6, 2009 at 2:38 pm

My husband and I are newly weds! We got married Aug 2nd. In Sep 08 I moved to California with him where he was stationed in the Marine Corps. We moved back to our home town in March (I've known him since I was 13). While we lived in CA we were both very happy. Love, hugs, and kisses all the time and we didn't argue very much at all. Now that we are married and back home he is mad at me all of the time. Over petty things if you ask me! This morning I dyed my hair and because I didn't ask him to come get in the shower with me (any women that dyes their hair at home knows how messy it is when you wash it out) he got mad. After wards we were in our room and I told him that if he wasn't happy with me to please just tell me so that I could save myself the hassle of leaving my job and moving off with him again. ~I have a job that I like and I am making more $ than I ever have. He is in the Police Academy right now and is looking into jobs around the Austin and Dallas area (both about 4 hrs away from where we live now). We have both agreed that we aren't happy here and wish that we would have never come back. I have two kids that I have to support and I don't want to put them throught moving and then comming back because things don't work out with us. I work nights for the Sheriff's Dept and I know he hates it but I have to support him while he goes through school as well as myself and my kids. He has told me many times that he doens't like that fact of me supporting him. It doesn't bother me at all. I tell him we are married so my $ is his $. I don't know if that combined with us being unhappy living here is causing all of the problems or what.~ I won't sit here and say that I never have an attitued because I sometimes do. There is only so much attitude that I will put up with until mine comes out. I love him with all of my heart and I would do anything for him and us. The problem is I don't know what to do! Everytime I try to even talk to him about stuff we end up fighting. The last thing I want to do is loose him but I've been through one crappy marriage and I AM NOT willing to go through another. Someone please tell me what to do!!! (Marriage counseling is out of the question due to our schedules.) He never 'rejects' me. If he isn't mad at me then he is always very open, caring and affectionate with me. Also, he isn't mad every second of everyday. He is mad more days than not tho. It just seems like he always has an attitude towards me. Maybe that is what makes me so mad!

Open Question: is marriage counseling helpful?
September 6, 2009 at 2:43 am

Open Question: Do you think premarital counseling helped you?
September 6, 2009 at 12:19 am

My fiance and I are getting married in about two months. Neither of us are very religious--though not oppose to it--and don't think a church would have us as we are not members. We've been together for over 5 years and feel pretty confident that we have built our relationship on a solid foundation of trust, communication, and compromise. There isn't a doubt in my mind that he is the man I should marry. That said, marriage counseling couldn't hurt, right? Sure, we have our ducks in a row and feel that we are similar in our values and wants for the future--but maybe there's something we're missing. Did premarital counseling help you? What specifically helped you? What kinds of questions or discussions are entertained? Is there a judgment kind of thing? That is, did your marriage counselor give you a seal of approval or try to convince you not to marry? Or did they remain neutral? What is the ultimate outcome of attending premarital counseling from your perspective? What is the ultimate outcome of attending premarital counseling from your counselor's perspective? Was the goal to keep you attending or to encourage you to attend post-marital counseling? Answers to any of these questions would be appreciated.

Open Question: My wife is scared of me and wants a divorce after my bipolar episodes?
September 5, 2009 at 9:33 pm

For 4 months i have dealt with a crippling depression. It really peaked when my wife reached six months pregnant and i became convinced she was cheating on me. I was convinced that i could do nothing right ever and so i just didn't do anything. I was abusing alcohol and drugs just to keep calm. I slept an four or five hours a night. I never wanted to get out of bed because once i got out of bed I was expected to do stuff. My wife wanted to work out together and i couldnt motivate myself to work out. I couldnt motivate myself to do anything. She had to keep house and basically run everything for us because i wouldnt do anything. I was constantly on edge ready to explode about everything. I thought she wasnt showing me love and didnt respect me. Torwards the beginning of August i started hurting myself. Running headfirst into concrete walls, punching walls, cutting myself, on many occasions i was close to suicide and talked myself out of it for her and my sons sake. I told her about everything going on and she didnt really say or do much because at this point she had already withdrawn from me. it made me so mad that she withdrew and wouldnt talk to me. Then the serious suicide attempts began after i lost my job. I was smashing my head on the wall until i passed out, my wife had to pull a loaded shotgun out of my mouth, i even tried jumping out of a moving car with her and my son inside just because we were fighting. Then one night we had a big blowup fight when we were drinking. I told her i was leaving and taking our son to her parents house and took him and started walking there. She chased me down and swung at me, missing, and hit my son. I snapped. I told her to swing at me again and she hit me in the face and I slapped her. Then she hit me again and i slapped her again. Then she tried wrestling my son out of my arms and i felt he was in danger so i pushed her down and covered her mouth until her parents showed up. After this i walked away and was going to kill myself. I broke one of my fundamental promises, not to ever hit a family member. and it tore me up. I called her, asking for her forgiveness so it wouldnt be on my soul when i died and she kept me on the phone long enough until the cops showed up. I was arrested and she got an exparte against me. Now she wants a divorce. I have since been diagnosed as bipolar, and i am going through treatment and i am on medication. I feel like i can look at stuff objectively and act on reason and not on emotion. I can tell when i am having an episode manic or depressive and i am able to think things out during these episodes. I love my wife very much and want to patch things up. I believe i can be a loving supportive husband and want to be. Most of all i want to be a good father for my son. She is so mad at me about hitting her that she refuses to go to counseling with me for our marriage and is taking steps to try to make me not love her anymore. I want to show her that I can be different. I know that for months i told her i would change, but this isnt something i could change by myself. Now i am starting to see the path to change i need to take and i want my soulmate to be a part of it. I dont feel like I deserve another chance and neither does she but we promised each other in sickness and in health and i believe i was acting the way i was because of my sickness. Its not that i didnt want to do anything ever, but i couldnt motivate myself too. Idk. Any ideas or suggestions? edit: I have been clean since the last incident and understand now that i was using those things as a crutch instead of facing my problems. I should have been talking to her about them instead of burying them in a daze and i am seeing a counselor and a therapist for my disorder and i am going to two marriage counselors, one professional and one religious.

This email was sent to frivvy89.marriagecounseling@blogger.com. Manage Your Account
Don't want to receive this feed any longer? Unsubscribe here.

9/6 Yahoo! Answers: Search for

2009-09-05T23:22:00.001-07:00

Please add updates@feedmyinbox.com to your address book to make sure you receive these messages in the future.

Yahoo! Answers: Search for

Open Question: Were we doomed, can you learn fromthis, part two?
September 5, 2009 at 3:00 pm

We always need money. I am thrifty. i try to work when I can. He likes nice things so do I, but we always must buy the cheapest things. He hates bills. Threatens bankruptcy if check book off $5. We seem to have no rights as a couple , either. I cannot talk to anyone w.o. severe repercussions. I not a swinger, we are not free to mess around. i have morals. i am not an abusive parent. love my kids. Spend little on myself or them, or him. He had a girlfriend. I do not hate her. Said bad things about me. Devastated. Gained 30 lbs. Reconciled. Going to be stronger. Gave him his freedom 2 x more. Saw an attorney x 1. Some one is lying on me a whole lot. Seems like all are his friend. Is it he cannot get any one else. Is it he thinks I cannot. I have not been up to even thinking of anyone else. People egg it on. I don't want us to be a public joke. Marriage, kids, home is VIP to me. I give up church. I am going to get split personality. Put kids in Christian schools. People weird to me. Is he taking pics of messy house when I am canning, freezing. I can clean the house top to bottom with kids help in couple hours. Pics which are exaggerated when I am at my worst gardening. Store looks at them. There are few truely beautiful people in this world. Beauty is relative, in eye of beholder. Real smart alecs hateful men and wives with status involved. Competitive. Mock ridicule me to him, us. Try to break us up. I hate them. Suspect they have counselled him our entire marriage re. divorce. I want love, respect, committment. I divorce him r/.t. saying he has girlfriend. Does He? I cannot take any more. He came back. No. I want no more of this or anyone else like you. He remarries x 2. I am doomed to dire poverty, being alone. No work. I am RN now. No work. Grossly disprespected. Know no one. Dtr must work way through school has very little. We have horrible housing.. Family same attitude he has. Dtr enlisted. I relocate.. Same drill, insults, have followed me. Follow? harass mock ridicule.Cannot get work. am clean, neat, smell good, well groomed, not over wt. Not extremely ugly. hate this poverty, afraid all time, do I have any friends, Homelss shelters. Just FS off and on, few dollars here and there, work, dtr.helped as could. Have never been able to get an attorney for anything. Have tried for years to get legal rep. They have brain damage, deaf? cruel and sick to me. sit and stare, say nothing. No help forthcoming. Just extreme abuse, anything I say is twisted and blown up into the most ugly way it can be it sems to slander,defame me. I want a life., am being murdered. This is a vendetta against one woman . He is now dead. This is murder. I am being killed, stoned to death murdered. I am not pure, but I am innocent and do not deserve any of this. am now much older, overweight, hideious I feel, I have never hated my looks and the way I feel so much in my life, felt so confined, so hated. They think it is a joke. I feel hopless. No career. Hate it. Churches do not want me. I have no money for anything much at all. I am the most conservfative Female or one of the most I have known. I am not an extremist. I cannot work now. I have health problems. Again, dooming me to poverty. Tell me to marry..Who, what? I want choice. NO. i want to be independent and have choice.. Every where I go, it is domination, buillying battering, insults, controlling. Spite toward me. Deprivation. Pain. i cannot meet my health needs. No legal help available. I fear for my life most all of the time, and it is not paranoia. I have been attacked now four times, and abducted once. They make it a joke. My kids I loved more than life. I wanted and want them to love and respect me. I don't want to lose what little I have left. they are not bad people. They have had their heads filled with anti Mom. to protect others. He is dead. Every one drew up sides in the divorce. Believe it or not. Everyone took his side. I defended him well. Revenge. Hate for me because I stuck it out and finished college. I moved all over hoping to meet, marry someone I loved, respected,was attracted to. No hope. Met with nothing but abuse made to return to the State where all bad things happened. I cannot take any more. Please learn from this. I do love the Lord. I do "have my music". I love music and the piano. I am getting better and better at it, but cannot afford lessons. People here act as if I have the worst bo imaginable. Please learn from this. Please pray for me. I have a lot of pain and no medical insurance. I am 62 years old. Have not enough money even for a decent diet and I do not want community freebies. I have been degraded enough by these people.. My husband was not all bad. I fought a good fight. I was faithful and I was committed to our marriage. They ruined everything. I never saw so much hate directed toward one lone female in my life. I will never understand it. I have known of Where I lived when we divorced, I knew of no single men, nice or otherwise. I do not chase men. I would not marry less than a decent moral heterosexual conservative man. I do not mess around with married men, and am not promiscuous. Not going to fool around. the one man I was involved with was not from there. He was hired, I think, to get involved with me. See what that does to yourself image. I was losing everything, devastated and the town does that. I am a christian female. I am not immoral. It is hate, vendetta, spite. Hate crime. My name is Lois. Please skip the wise cracks and just try to read it. You could profit, learn something. My grammar is not the worst in the world by far.

Open Question: Have you ever fallen back in love with your spouse? How did it happen? What made it happen?
September 5, 2009 at 12:01 am

My wife and I (7 years marriage) are in our 40s (3 upper teens sons – 1 hers & 2 mine). She told me a week ago she no longer loves me & that this feeling has been creeping in on her for a couple of years. I am overall pretty decent to her (faithful, non-abusive, provide for her well, help around the house, keep myself in good shape, etc.) – my main faults are that I never really got along closely with her son (he and I have made amends now and are MUCH better) AND that I'm kind of annoying in that I am very opinionated (I can see after all these years that this could get very tiring). She is still living with me because she is currently unemployed and has no money. Anyway, I am getting counseling (she doesn't want to go – not by herself or with me). I've sort of had a revelation and I truly think I am now ready to NEVER be this controlling type of opinionated annoying person to her. I think she sees that and believes it. The first few days I cried to her, begged her, pleaded with her … though I still feel like doing that (I still am deeply in love with her) I have decided to mostly stop that & try to make it comfortable with her while she is still here. (I'm not going to kick her out so don't suggest that.) We talk, watch tv, still sleep in the same bed, … I am 99.9% certain that she is not cheating. Though I've always been in pretty decent shape, I am working out more because I know she was more attracted to me "physically" when I was in better shap. So, back to my question, (((how did YOU fall in love again?))) Or how do you think I can get her to love the ME again that she loved previously loved? I am going to 1000% be a better ME for her now than even the guy she loved back then. I'd do anything to win her back.

Open Question: Do You Like My Story...I'm Just Going With the Flow...PLEASE be honest?
September 4, 2009 at 10:57 pm

"This better be important" Chloe said looking at her watch. It was her lunch break but Clarence sent her an urgent email telling her to meet him at Palena an Italian resturaunt that they dined at quite often. His cell phone was going straight to voicemail. She was escorted to her table where there was a blonde beautiful woman with two little boys who appeared to be 4 or 5. They were twins. "Excuse me is this your table ma'am" Chloe asked. "Yes this is my table the woman replied staring her up and down". "Hey honey" Clarence kissed the blonde woman on the lips. "Daddy"! "Daddy!" the twin boys hugged their father's leg. Chloe's heart felt as if it was being ripped from her chest. She stood there speechless. Clarence finally looked up and his expression was if he had seen a ghost. "What are you doing here?" Clarence asked with large eyes. "I invited her sweetheart" the blond interjected. "After reading countless emails between you two I thought any good friend of yours is a friend of mine"she had a look of disgust on her face. Not knowing what was making her more angry. The fact that Clarence was cheating on her or the point that he was cheating with a woman of his own race. Chloe ignored the blonde's dirty look it wasn't the time or place to get into a fight with the woman as bad as she wanted to whip both of their asses. Those children saved the day as far as Chloe was concerned because if they weren't present Chloe might have been leaving in the back of a police car. Clarence's wife wore a huge diamond ring on her ring finger. In comparison to the one Clarence gave her last year was a total insult. "Yes, Clarence and I are extremely close friends" Chloe faked a smile holding back the tears with all her might.She couldn't help herself that chick was starting to piss her off with the dirty looks and the fact that she was white was urking her evenmore but she understood her anger she was the other woman sleeping with a married man."Allow me to introduce myself" Chloe stuck out her hand to reveal the ring Clarence had given her which looked like a pea compared to his wife's but it was the pleasure of letting her know he proposed to her as well. "You gave that Bitch a ring" she roared and burst into tears. Her young sons started to cry as well. When Chloe seen this her heart ached for the little boys. She had to get out of there quick. Everyone in the resturaunt where glued to the drama. She got nasty stares from other women. Looking like the homewrecker she had no clue she was. Clarence was consoling his wife and children as if Chloe didn't even exist. Pleading his lying case to his wife. Chloe couldn't believe her eyes the last 2 years of her life was a lie.She left avoiding all eye contact because she knew the fingers were being pointed at her. It was all Chloe's fault never once do the man get blamed Chloe thought they just go to marriage counseling and get excused for their affairs . She couldn't believe how stupid and nieve she was to think that Clarence was always away on bussiness and she rarely got him to stay the nights of course he had to go home to his wife and children. She called her job to request the rest of the day off. She was a wreck and crying her eyes out in the back of the taxi cab. Her cell phone started to ring. The ringtone "Loving You" by minnie ripperton was for Clarence. She didn't want to hear his voice at all. She avoided him crying harder.

This email was sent to frivvy89.marriagecounseling@blogger.com. Manage Your Account
Don't want to receive this feed any longer? Unsubscribe here.

9/5 Yahoo! Answers: Search for

2009-09-04T23:22:00.003-07:00

Please add updates@feedmyinbox.com to your address book to make sure you receive these messages in the future.

Yahoo! Answers: Search for

Open Question: Am I being paranoid about this situation or not?
September 4, 2009 at 6:45 pm

Okay. Obviously I want everyone's thoughts on this so here is my problem: Ok well I got my 3 kids back from fostercare a few months ago. Why were they in fostercare??? Well basically I had an anger management problem and I feared for my kids so I told on myself in a marriage counseling session. Then it snowballed from there. Anyway I secretly think my next door neighbors are after my kids. This is why. My female neighbor said once, during all the mess, that her and her husband had tried fostering my kids but were turned down because they don't have a license to foster. Hmm.... Now a few weeks ago someone called our Clinic on base (I live on a military base because of my husband) and said that Im walking off and leaving my kids alone and that they hear screaming from inside my house. This person didn't leave a name or number either. The Clinic also doesn't have caller ID. Now the only people close enough to hear screaming from my house would be.....my next door neighbors of which I only have one set that is directly nextdoor (we share a wall). Yep. Also the screaming is not because of me hurting my kids. My oldest son throws tantrums a lot and my youngest son cries over every little thing. My daughter screams when she cries and screams louder the longer she cries. I've got 2 yr old boy/girl twins and a 9 month old boy. And as for me walking away and leaving my kids alone....??? The only time I ever leave them alone is when I go to my mailbox. Its about 2-3 mins from my house and I can easily look over my shoulder and see my house as I walk to my mailbox. All of our mailboxes are clustered together. Plus I always make sure the kids are safe and I always lock my door before I go to the mailbox. Another thing, since the anoymous call, our next door neighbors haven't been seen very much. Plus during all the mess, they hardly ever talked to us and quit enviting us over. Exept for one time when they grilled us on what happened to our kids. So there ya have it. Am I being paranoid or not? For your info, I took parenting classes and passed. Also no, I'm not a bad mom. My kids don't have a chance to swallow any foreign objects because I'm a neatfreak. Plus the outlets are covered and I keep my kids gated in the hallway when I leave so they are stuck playing in their rooms. Plus so far, nothing bad has happened. And for more info, id rather take 2-3 mintues to get mail then spend 15 mins or more getting 2 kids into my double stroller and having my oldest son walk such a long distance and back. Then id deal with them screaming because they have to go back in the house. Also the winters are harsh here and I wouldn't dare force my kids to be out in it just so I can get my mail.

Open Question: Do I still love my wife?
September 4, 2009 at 6:02 pm

Here is the deal. My wife and I have been attending counseling to try and save our marriage. We've been married for 9 years. Anyway, we have a ton of problems that we are trying to resolve but the bottom line is I don't feel in love with her anymore. Honestly there is no passion whatsoever from either of us. Its been like this for a long time. Plus we've been arguing regularly for the past few years to the point where we are shouting and insulting one another. My wife really wants to try and hold onto the marriage. As for me, I'm just not sure I want it anymore. Its not like I hate my wife or wish her harm but I just don't know if we can stay together. Does the fact, that I don't hate her mean that there is enough love to stay married? Again, we are in counseling and have been trying the dating thing for 2 months but still nothing. What should I do?

Open Question: Should I Give Up On My Marriage?
September 4, 2009 at 4:45 pm

Married for just over two years and I feel like a jerk and a loser for thinking about throwing in the towel. I was so-so about being single at 39 but now I hate being married. I could write a long story here but lets just sum it up like this: my wife gradually but drastically decreased the sex and affection. The sex and affection really nosedived a few months ago--after I found out that I'm 100% infertile. The only option is donor insemination which she's not crazy about, but she tells me that since she's 39 she feels "out of time" and that "she has no chance to have a kid any other way so she has to do it this way" (which she resents me for). She also never trusts me, she thinks I'm having an affair or that I'm badmouthing her and her family to my family (which I have never done either, even tho there's no sex). My mother in law sabotages us by manipulating my wife in various ways I could go into, but suffice it to say they are very codependent, so much so that my wife can't be happy unless her mom is happy, and if she's upset (which is most of the time)...you get the idea. The most venomous thing she's done is continually insinuate that I knew that I was sterile prior to marrying my wife (this is my 1st marriage so that is ridiculous). My wife believed this for a while..sometimes she still asks me about it. The questioning from my wife about these accusations is infuriating. Been in counseling with my wife since last December. It was ok at first to get out my feelings, but it really has done nothing for my marriage. The counselor really gives us no advice and regarding the lack of sex and affection she says I should just get used to it because that's how marriage is and after kids it gets worse. Hmmmm. Is this really what marriage is about? If this is it, then it really sucks and I can't believe so many people put up with it for through the history of mankind. Am I just not trying hard enough? My wife is always so moody, crabby and bitchy and I try to help us focus on the positive, but to no avail.I am open to suggestions from experienced married people.

Open Question: If my husband cheated on me once, asked for forgiveness, and then did it again..what does that say about me?
September 4, 2009 at 3:04 pm

Well, we have had a long and happy marriage so far, but now he's been caught cheating for the 2nd time in 5 months. First time: He literally begged and begged me not to leave. He cheated on me for a year, and I was the one to catch them. I can't describe the carnage that followed that week I found out. He said he would kill himself if I left him. My brothers threatened to kill him AND the other girl. Anyway eventually I stayed and forgot about it. No counselling. OK so he said I was his "queen" and he made suuuch a stupid mistake, and he didn't know where his head was at. He fu(ked up, he was egged on, etc. So why, 5 months later, is he doing it again? And this is the best bit - this time HE SAID IT'S ONLY SEX THIS TIME SO IT'S OK!!! I once spoke to the first ex mistress [after the affair with her] and she said that he and her were in love - I know this as he admitted it so it wasn't news. But she is not willing to see him again as she wants to move on seriously. What does it say about me that I forgave him, moved on, do EVERYTHING he wants me to..and then he cheats again, and tries to justify by saying it is 'just sex'? Am I an idiot? BTW I caught him again, he never confessed this time either. He still won't talk to his first ex mistress cos she talked to me & he sees it as a betrayal. By this I mean he accused his ex mistress of 'betraying' him.

Open Question: my life seems as though its pointless what should i do?
September 4, 2009 at 1:38 pm

my wife cheated on me were getting a divorce, i still love her. i cant keep a job. i need something i don't want to drink, ive considered suicide but im to much of a pussy to do it. what can i do i am going to counseling to no avail for both myself and for my marriage. help me.

Open Question: Why would my wife change her mind about the divorce after custody was settled?
September 4, 2009 at 1:15 pm

My wife wanted to get a divorce while she was pregnant with our child. I begged her to keep our marriage together, so we tried counseling and she completely tanked every session (she would show up with an attitude and not talk during the sessions). We split up 2 months after our son was born. Later she tried to keep my from seeing my son by filing a restraining order and when that was denied she changed her numbers. I eventually TOOK my baby from day care and filed for custody (but didn't file for divorce). That sparked a nasty year long custody battle, during which she filed for divorce (because I refused to divorce my wife after such a short marriage). Once the custody battle was settled, we got 50/50 custody (which is usually rare for a toddler in CA). After that I expected her to continue to fight for primary custody and continue to be nasty to me during exchanges. However, after it was settled she became the coolest person in the world. Not only was she civil, but she was nice. She also began delaying the divorce proceedings by no submitting requested paperwork and changing lawyers several times. A year later she called me out of the blue and apologized for EVERYTHING she did to me. When I say everything I mean she prepared a list of everything she did to me, explained how it probably made me feel and how wrong she was for EACH INDIVIDUAL THING! Months later she said she wanted to hold off on the divorce and give it one more try. Can anyone explain this to me? One theory is that she was hormonal during the pregnancy and after the pregnancy she didn't want to go back on her saying she wanted a divorce and felt pressured to continue with it.

Open Question: Should I fake affection to my wife or let it come naturally?
September 4, 2009 at 12:02 pm

My wife and I are currently in counseling to see if we can hold onto our marriage. I was out of the house for about a month (an "unofficial" seperation I guess) but decided to come back to the house last week to see if we can reconnect and save our marriage. We both agree if I cant find my love for her anymore than the marriage needs to end. Anyway, its only been about 2 weeks and she is already complaining that I'm not showing any affection towards her. She wants me to converse with her constantly, hold her, kiss her, etc,etc. The problem is I don't have the desire to show this amount of affection towards her. I told her that it should come naturally and shouldn't be fake. Lack of affection on both of ends is something that has been a characteristic of our marriage. In fact, our sex life has been a big fat Zero for over two years. Since we haven't been affectionate toward each other in so long that its hard to be in an "idea" marriage when we haven't been there in years. So what should I do? Should I show affection to my wife becuase this is what she wants or just let it come? My take is if I cant get the desire to give her affection than my love for her just can't come back.

Open Question: i told my husband i want a divorce tonight?
September 4, 2009 at 10:28 am

we have been married 9 months and i told him tonight i want a divorce. before we even got engaged i was trying to break it off with him. it didnt feel righ and i have never been 100% sure about it. ebery time i tired, he would not let me. i know that sounds stupid - why didnt i just tell him to get stuffed and not talk to him right? well i tired, and he begged and begged and would not stop. i didnt give in... but i do love him and di love him and so when someone you love BEGS you event tho you know they are bad for you, you just give in. anyway, our relationship has seriously deteriorated since we got married - its like as soon as i said 'i do' the chase was over for him - he won - he got me so he didnt have to like me anymore. no attention. no sex. no trying. he quit his job one month after we were married. i work casual/ part time and have been supporting us for 8 months. he recently got employed again (after i had a nervous breadown) but after onnly 2 weeks was made redundant. i cannot cope with supporting us anymore. he has not paid his loan so his name shas bad credit against it now. i have been on anti-depressants since we got married because i developed an anxiety disorder since iv been with him and have become suicidal again. i used to be when i was a teen due to an abusive father, but i finally got over it. now its back. we were both virgins when we met, but now he wont touch me. i told him i was going to go off the pill as there is no point in me being on it because we dont have sex often enough. he said that was fine. he didnt even try to argue. i know men find me attractive and it hurst so much that men at work are more willing to sleep with me than my own husband. they pay me more attention. im sick of hurting. i know m life was better before him. when i told him this tonight he went off and laughed at me. i am serious though. i have tried and tried - the past 5 months of our marriage has me been trying to make t work and trying to find out whats wrong and trying to help it. but despite EVERYTHING nothing changes. i would be better off without him. its hurts but its true. he has no job, bad credit and no where to go as his family does not talk to him. my family will take me in but not him - altho i can afford to live by myself. ok. so i guess what im asking is - based on this, do you think i am justified in getting a divorce? obviously counselling is out of the question as we cannot afford it. thanks

Open Question: Can we ever get the love back?
September 4, 2009 at 9:14 am

My husband and I are going through a rough patch right now. We have only been married a lil over a year, and we have had some conflicts through our whole relationship/marriage. I guess you could say that I either get bored, or get fed up with the way he treats me so I break it off with him and find another guy to talk to. I dont cheat, just talk to. And its happened one last time about a month and a half ago. My husband was so furious when I told him that he left. He came back the next day and we worked it out. Then 2 weeks later he withdrew completely from me. Then I discovered why, he had found someone else and had fallen in love with her. Now we are at the point where he doesnt want to be with her, he wants to work it out with me. But he wont wear his wedding band, wont sleep with me, and he told me that I hurt him more than I think I did. What can I do to try to make our marriage work? I've changed now so that I wont do the running to the other guy thing, because I'm going to counseling...PLZ HELP!!!

Open Question: Have you ever fallen back in love with your spouse? How did it happen? What made it happen?
September 4, 2009 at 6:45 am

Open Question: Divorce questions, need help?
September 4, 2009 at 4:27 am

Married 5 years with 5 year old. Living in my parents house for a couple years now with husband who has gone downhill. He was supposed to finish school, work, get a better job so we could move. But he refuses to work, only collects $ from disabilitypayment from military/and GIBill. I'm a stay at home mom and take care of everything while he sits on his butt all day barely passing community college classes every semester. Don't even know if he finishes the courses. He makes every excuse that he is going to get work but won't lift a finger to, just takes advantage of my folks, does nothing around the house but act like a second child, inconsiderate, lazy, irresponsible, immature, disrespectful, etc. He hates living here but won't get a job so we can move. Wants to move out of CA because his family is in another state. I refuse to because he has given us no stability and has been a self-serving jerk, walks all over us daily. I don't trust him at all, and feel so sad but put on a happy face everyday for my kid and just focus on them. Now he got fed up and said he can't stand living here so much that he's just going to put us into tens of thousands of dollars debt and leaves every night and stays at an expensive hotel for 200 bucks a night. Comes back to use my folks laundry and pretend to want to be around his kid. Says he won't get counseling because "I won't change" and it's too expensive. Says he won't get a divorce because it costs too much and thinks I will never let him see his kid again. I got us out of debt early in our marriage and took care of our finances since then. Now he's going to ruin it all and is being so selfish it's eating me up inside. He's trying to manipulate me into moving out of here but I won't budge because he is not dependable or trustworthy. Since I am not working and he is living here, what are my options? Will my kid be forced through visitation to live with him in another state if he moves? He refuses to bathe, feed, play with her most of the time because he is "too busy" not passing his classes and jerking off in the bathroom everynight. What happens if I file for divorce but he's still living here? Is there a way to get him to move out? He said in the beginning he would work and take care of us and he lied. He's a kid stuck in a grown man's body. I'm worried he is going to try to run off with her because he's acting so crazy lately staying at hotels and blowing money like it's the end of the world. What can I do?

Open Question: Are these irreconcilable differences? Help me find a solution.?
September 3, 2009 at 10:50 pm

The first issue: My wife and I have lived in the Chicago area since we got married over 20 years ago. She loves it here, and will not consider moving. I absolutely hate it here, and the thought of living here more than another year or two makes me want to jump in front of a truck. I am a real outdoorsy person. I need to get out into wild country and enjoy some solitude and natural beauty. This is a real physical need for me. But where we live there is nothing but mile after mile of subdivisions and malls, surrounded by endless fields of corn and soybeans. Within 200 miles of here there isn't even a decent place to go camping or take a hike. As a result, I am miserable and I have to take pills to numb my feelings. The second issue: At my job, I am good at what I do and I am well paid. The work is alright, but my heart has never really been in it and never will be. I help make money for the stockholders, but beyond that, my job doesn't really accomplish anything worthwhile. I want to do something meaningful. I could do pretty much the same job for an organization I really believe in for probably very not much less money, but because I can't absolutely guarantee that I will be making not one penny less than I make now, my wife is outraged every time I even raise the possibility of making this change. I should say that my wife never negotiates anything, and she does not believe in win-win solutions. She decides how she thinks things should be, without input from anyone else, and anything that deviates from that is totally wrong, as far as she is concerned. On every issue that is of any importance to her, she has to be the clear winner, and everyone else has to be the clear loser. She is also extremely persistent and there is no peace until she gets her way. She completely rejects the idea of marriage counseling. I have been planning on divorcing her in a couple of years when our younger child finishes high school, but now I am not sure I can wait even that long. The problem is, I really love my wife. I really enjoy spending time with her. Except for these issues and a few others, we get along very well and our relationship is very warm and satisfying. But the two problems I described above make our life intolerable for me. Is there some creative solution to my dilemma, or is divorce the only way out?

This email was sent to frivvy89.marriagecounseling@blogger.com. Manage Your Account
Don't want to receive this feed any longer? Unsubscribe here.

9/5 YouTube Videos matching query: marriage counselling

2009-09-04T23:22:00.001-07:00

Please add updates@feedmyinbox.com to your address book to make sure you receive these messages in the future.

YouTube Videos matching query: marriage counselling

Relationship Therapists Jesse and Melva Johnson respond ...
September 4, 2009 at 4:58 pm

	Relationship Therapists Jesse and Melva Johnson respond ... Relationship Therapists Jesse Melva Johnson: Couples relationships therapy advice with Huntington Woods relationship therapists Jesse and Melva Johnson for a www.couplestransformations.com subscriber who is happily married, committed to his wife and tempted to follow through on the temptations from attractive single co-workers making advances. ... huntington woods relationship therapists jesse melva johnson	From: jesseandmelva Views: 0 0 ratings
	Time: 01:58	More in Entertainment

This email was sent to frivvy89.marriagecounseling@blogger.com. Manage Your Account
Don't want to receive this feed any longer? Unsubscribe here.

Does Marriage Counseling Work?

2009-09-03T17:48:00.001-07:00

Here are some tips you can take to ensure you get the most out of their counseling sessions.

Be at your appointments on time. Whether your schedule of marriage therapy sessions five times a month or every two weeks, be sure to keep your appointment. The therapist agrees to commit to helping you, so you must commit to making your marriage work.

Marriage counseling does not always work. It helps couples realize sometimes it's better just being together. However, in many cases, when a couple approach a therapist for help, it is more likely to restore the bond of love they share if they follow guidelines.

If you say five things at the same time in the session, and then deny it later, basically defeat the purpose of counseling. You should not say anything bad their counselor will be surprised. Most therapists have played the most remarkable stories, so anything he or she is discharged. You can feel safer disclosing embarrassing information about his sexual intimacy or anger issues in the presence of a counselor, so that during the sessions, this is an ideal opportunity to express their feelings in a safe area.

Make sure you are honest with your counselor and companion. The point of counseling is to uncover hidden emotional problems or other in a marriage, communication difficulties or other problems that may be preventing the realization of true love you deserve. Be sure to take time to trust your therapist and partner in the presence of his counsel. Click here to make your marriage work without spending a fortune.